Wedding invitation bank details: how to ask for money instead of gifts
Written by the Wedvite founders
Say it once, warmly, and make it easy. A digital invitation can carry a short gifts note followed by your bank details: bank name, account holder, account number or IBAN, and the SWIFT or sort code. Guests read them on their phone and transfer in their own banking app. Nothing is printed and nothing is paid through the invitation.
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How the gifts section shows your details
A note, or a note and bank cards
Choose a gentle wording on its own, or add bank cards under it. Switch between the two at any time.
Every field a transfer needs
Each card holds a label, the bank's name, the account holder, the account number or IBAN, and the BIC or SWIFT code.
Your country's banking words
Show IBAN and BIC/SWIFT, Account number and BSB, or labels you type yourself, such as Sort code or Routing number.
More than one account
Add a card per account, for example one in each country when your families live in two.
Is it rude to ask for money instead of gifts?
Not when it is done with care, and in many families it is the expected gift. In the Gulf, across much of Europe and in many British, Irish and South Asian families, a cash gift is common; couples who already share a home simply have little use for a second toaster. What reads badly is a demand, a figure or a joke about costs.
The polite version has three parts: your guests' presence is the gift, anyone who wishes to give may contribute towards something specific, and here is how. Put it in its own section near the end of the invitation, after the date, the venue and the RSVP, never in the opening lines. Keep the details plain and let the wording carry the warmth.
How do I word a request for money on a wedding invitation?
Name what the money is for when you can, because a honeymoon or a first home is easier to give towards than an account number. Thank people before asking anything, keep it to two sentences, and leave the bank details in the cards rather than in the wording, so the note reads like a note and not like an invoice. These six read naturally in the places they come from; adjust the names and the purpose to your own.
Whichever you choose, use the same tone as the rest of the invitation: formal wording above a formal note, relaxed above relaxed. Avoid naming an amount, avoid the word cash in the heading, and never suggest that a gift is a condition of attending. If both families will read the invitation, show the wording to a parent first; what sounds natural to you may land differently with an older generation.
- ✦UK: Your company is the best present of all. If you would like to give a gift, a contribution towards our honeymoon would be warmly received.
- ✦US: Having you with us is all we wish for. For those who have asked, we would be grateful for a contribution to our first home together.
- ✦Gulf: Your presence honours us. For those who wish to offer a gift, our account details are below, with our heartfelt thanks.
- ✦Germany or Austria: Your presence is our greatest gift. Anyone wishing to give something may contribute to our honeymoon fund.
- ✦Netherlands or Belgium: We already have everything we need at home; a contribution to our travels would make us very happy.
- ✦Ireland: No gifts are needed. If you would like to mark the day, a small contribution to our honeymoon would be lovely.
How do bank details appear on a digital invitation?
In the gifts section, under your note, as one or more cards in the design's own style. Each card can show a label such as Shared account or the bride's name, then the bank, the account holder, the account number and the bank code. You choose the words for those last two: IBAN and BIC/SWIFT for most of Europe and the Gulf, Account number and BSB for Australia, or your own labels for a UK sort code or a US routing number.
Guests copy the details into their own banking app, as they would from a message. The invitation does not take payments, show PayPal or Venmo buttons, or run a registry, and no fee is taken from any gift. If you also have a registry elsewhere, mention it in the gifts note so guests know both options exist. Older relatives who prefer a card in an envelope can still bring one; say so in the note if that matters to your family.
The questions everyone asks.
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